Caregiving is as much an emotional roller-coaster for things about the caregiver as it is to the caregiving itself. Not all crises come from the circumstances of the people for whom we care. Sometimes our own emotional baggage decides to unpack and stay for a while. Read the rest of this entry »
Intention is what we bring to a task or role – whether we know what we are getting into or not.
Our strength as a caregivers to get up each day and take care of everything one can possibly do is astounding! The personal costs can sometimes be great (loss of time, resources, and even Health) but we persevere. But how do we do it? Read the rest of this entry »
Ask any caregiver about the work they do and they will likely describe tasks accomplished. Breakfast was eaten, their charge was dressed and set into motion for the day. Nothing of great consequence. Just another day.
What is often not mentioned are the multitude of little things that go missing over time from the daily routine. The interpersonal exchanges of activities or words that no longer happen. Read the rest of this entry »
Your sense of humor is by far the strongest skill you bring to your care-giving. It diffuses stressful situations, brightens another person’s day, and it reminds you that you really aren’t superman/woman when you keep thinking you should be. Read the rest of this entry »
Loss is inevitable.
We give up things so we can grow. Childhood toys give way to the clothing and cars of adolescence. Which are eventually are replaced by the trappings of adulthood. We give up to get.
Caregiving is an activity that amplifies this because the process of giving up involves cherished parts of our lives. Read the rest of this entry »
That childhood name for all of those things or situations we really wished had turned out differently. Somehow we never entirely give up on the concept, even though we intellectually come to understand other realities as we grow into adulthood.
One of the things discovered about care-giving is its unrelenting nature. There never seems to be that proverbial “minute of peace”. We are either doing or thinking/planning about doing.
The funny thing though, is there are actually moments tucked up into this scenario that Read the rest of this entry »