Dementia, as a plot device for television or film, has never quite lived up to the reality. Usually played for sobbing sympathy or just a tragic underscore to a character, the story line usually leaves out the stumbling’s of the caregivers and their associated confused introduction to their new roles. Rarely do we get to see the conflicted person make their way through to becoming the care-giving person they will become.
That is until now. Read the rest of this entry »
No matter how long you have been a caregiver, having a Durable Power of Attorney (DPOA) from your loved one is one of the most powerful instruments in your bag of caregiving tools. This little piece of paper can mean the difference between getting needed care for the person you care for or (seemingly) endless hours arguing with Read the rest of this entry »
Caregiving is as much an emotional roller-coaster for things about the caregiver as it is to the caregiving itself. Not all crises come from the circumstances of the people for whom we care. Sometimes our own emotional baggage decides to unpack and stay for a while. Read the rest of this entry »
Medical care is invariable part and parcel of a caregiver’s life. And what a strange world is modern healthcare, right? You want to do right by the person you are caring for by making sure they are receiving appropriate care from their doctors and hospitals but you feel unqualified because your medical background is limited or nonexistent. Not to worry. You can handle this. Read the rest of this entry »
Ask any caregiver about the work they do and they will likely describe tasks accomplished. Breakfast was eaten, their charge was dressed and set into motion for the day. Nothing of great consequence. Just another day.
What is often not mentioned are the multitude of little things that go missing over time from the daily routine. The interpersonal exchanges of activities or words that no longer happen. Read the rest of this entry »
Your sense of humor is by far the strongest skill you bring to your care-giving. It diffuses stressful situations, brightens another person’s day, and it reminds you that you really aren’t superman/woman when you keep thinking you should be. Read the rest of this entry »
Loss is inevitable.
We give up things so we can grow. Childhood toys give way to the clothing and cars of adolescence. Which are eventually are replaced by the trappings of adulthood. We give up to get.
Caregiving is an activity that amplifies this because the process of giving up involves cherished parts of our lives. Read the rest of this entry »