Like many caregivers, I started losing Dad over a period of years prior to his passing. By the time he actually died, it was hard to feel grief. I had already grieved his leaving but the guilt over not feeling something was still very disconcerting. Like so many other feelings, this one just resolved over time. I think much of the healing was in finding out how common those emotions are among caregivers.
Anger, on the other hand, was not an emotion I had anticipated this long after his passing and I really had to work at resolving it. Continue reading “The Long Disconnect”
Perspective is often the difference between just another day and one that is running off of the rails. With caregiving responsibilities foremost, we need to look at how we do things every once in a while and see if some things can be upgraded a bit. Continue reading “Take a Different Caregiving View”
Caregiving really amplifies your Life. Boy howdy.
While I am in recovery for my own personal choices earlier in life, I think I am also in recovery for the work I did as a caregiver. In the years of working in Dad’s lifestyle, I learned more about myself. Since the end of that period, I have learned more about him and my relationships.
I should write about this stuff. Continue reading “Before You Go”
Funny how caregiving is the gift that just keeps on giving. We think it is just about the physical care and emotional roller coaster of caring for loved ones. With their passing comes a whole new package of personal work that pulls up all the many things we ignored during the times of providing care.
Some of the issues are easy to work through, while others are landmines. This is a short story of one of the latter. Continue reading “Last Conversation of a Father and Son”