Funny how caregiving is the gift that just keeps on giving. We think it is just about the physical care and emotional roller coaster of caring for loved ones. With their passing comes a whole new package of personal work that pulls up all the many things we ignored during the times of providing care.
Some of the issues are easy to work through, while others are landmines. This is a short story of one of the latter. Read the rest of this entry »
Dementia, as a plot device for television or film, has never quite lived up to the reality. Usually played for sobbing sympathy or just a tragic underscore to a character, the story line usually leaves out the stumbling’s of the caregivers and their associated confused introduction to their new roles. Rarely do we get to see the conflicted person make their way through to becoming the care-giving person they will become.
That is until now. Read the rest of this entry »
No matter how long you have been a caregiver, having a Durable Power of Attorney (DPOA) from your loved one is one of the most powerful instruments in your bag of caregiving tools. This little piece of paper can mean the difference between getting needed care for the person you care for or (seemingly) endless hours arguing with Read the rest of this entry »
Caregiving is as much an emotional roller-coaster for things about the caregiver as it is to the caregiving itself. Not all crises come from the circumstances of the people for whom we care. Sometimes our own emotional baggage decides to unpack and stay for a while. Read the rest of this entry »
Intention is what we bring to a task or role – whether we know what we are getting into or not.
Our strength as a caregivers to get up each day and take care of everything one can possibly do is astounding! The personal costs can sometimes be great (loss of time, resources, and even Health) but we persevere. But how do we do it? Read the rest of this entry »
Medical care is invariable part and parcel of a caregiver’s life. And what a strange world is modern healthcare, right? You want to do right by the person you are caring for by making sure they are receiving appropriate care from their doctors and hospitals but you feel unqualified because your medical background is limited or nonexistent. Not to worry. You can handle this. Read the rest of this entry »
Ask any caregiver about the work they do and they will likely describe tasks accomplished. Breakfast was eaten, their charge was dressed and set into motion for the day. Nothing of great consequence. Just another day.
What is often not mentioned are the multitude of little things that go missing over time from the daily routine. The interpersonal exchanges of activities or words that no longer happen. Read the rest of this entry »